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Failing to Protect the Most Vulnerable

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The word “imprint” is often used by kinksters to describe a scene from popular media depicting some kind of activity that can be fetishised — a criminal being flogged in a movie, or a woman getting bound and gagged while she’s being kidnapped on a television show — that left such a strong impression on someone that it can be seen, in retrospect, as what led someone into exploring kinks and fetishes. This past Friday, one of the television shows that led many people of…

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The Harm of Sloppy Storytelling

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Dominatrix Community Condemns Netflix Show ‘Bonding’ As ‘Inauthentic’ and ‘Problematic’ (IndieWire via yahoo.com) I’m old enough that my first explorations of my sexuality online weren’t done on the Internet, but on local computer bulletin boards. I got regular Internet access when I first went off to college, and as wonderful of a resource as the Internet proved to be for that purpose, it also provided me with my first lessons about how “nothing ever really leaves the Internet,” long before anyone thought to coin that…

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Sit On My Face and Tell Me You Love Free Speech

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The UK’s sexist new pornography restrictions  aren’t just an act of state censorship, but could be the first step towards something even worse (The Independent) U.K. Sex Workers Sitting on Each Other’s Faces for Their Right to Fist (Gawker) If you study human sexuality for any length of time, particularly fetish culture, you quickly gain an appreciation for the seemingly limitless ways in which we humans experience erotic enjoyment. I’ve often argued that the infamous “Rule 34” of the Internet, that if something exists then…

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Coming Out

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FAQs for Kink Coming Out Day (kinkcomingoutday.com) My name is Sean Shannon, and I am kinky. This is not news to most of you, I am sure. Although I was quiet about my kink for a few years between finishing graduate school and starting to promote The Prostitutes of Lake Wobegon, I’ve been relatively open about identifying as kinky since I first got on the Internet back in 1994. (Good grief, twenty years next year. I’m old.) That was in the wake of Madonna’s Sex book (and associated…

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Blurring the Line

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Amanda Berry, Gina DeJesus: Reports of bondage rituals (digitaljournal.com) Kink.com CEO says fetish porn is not to blame for shocking sex cases (New York Daily News) When I was very young, CBS’s adaptation of The Incredible Hulk, starring Bill Bixby and Lou Ferrigno, was one of the most popular shows out there. Since my father was a huge fan of M*A*S*H, which also ran on CBS, I’d see lots of promotions for the show, and for a time the sight of Bixby’s Dr. David Banner transforming into…

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